Maggers Wrote:LOL! Like that, Sam.
Funerals celebrate the life of someone you cared for, respected or loved, otherwise why go. That's something real, something finite, something irrevocable. They are also sad; that goes without saying. But they are truly meaningful, once in a life time events.
Weddings, on the other hand, are not unique events. I'd much rather check back with the couple in say, 25 years, and see how they're doing. Throw a big party then. That I'd celebrate. But to pay so much money for what may last a year or less or a few years when it's purported to last a lifetime...well, that's just false advertising.
Call me jaded...what can I say.
Gotta agree with you on the wedding business. They are a very special day, I recognize that fact. But why do you
have to have the 12' tall, 8 tier cake on a 24 karat gold platter to celebrate your love??? An engagement ring isn't enough because you
have to have a wedding ring, too?? A 2nd mortgage just to buy the dress?? Etc, etc, etc. So much pressure caused by these events. Weddings are about love and unity. Not how big the limo is and a private jet to a rented island. I've been to a few lavish weddings, even gave the best man speech at one. All that money spent didn't make the marriage last any longer. I think a fairy tale wedding is wonderful but not really necessary.
Funerals?? Hate 'em. I can't stand to see people in pain. And your last image of the deceased is in that coffin, looking nothing at all like the person you knew. I have proclaimed emphatically that my funeral will be a "closed- coffin-kegger" . That may sound stupid to some but I don't want people crying over me. I want laughter, smiles, relaxed atmosphere, funny stories, anything but tears. I want their last time around me to be a happy one. Leave the crying at the door.